The juice is not the medicine
- Tripat Riyait
- Apr 7, 2023
- 4 min read
The juices, the fasts, the yoga and meditation are not the medicine.
What is the medicine then?
Choosing yourself!
Over and over you have chosen others over you, telling yourself and your inner child that you are inconsequential. That everyone else’s needs matter above your own. People pleasing your way through life because being yourself means being rejected, meeting your needs means being selfish, having boundaries is disrespectful!
These old beliefs need to go now! Throw them out because they do not serve you!
What is your vision for your life? I am sure it isn’t being chronically sick or being depressed and anxious all the time.
They did serve you at one time in your life, which is why you learnt to be this way, it was safer for you. But now you manifest symptoms of fatigue, pain, depression etc. because you need to be taken care of and you seek love from outside of yourself. You neglected yourself so much that you can’t understand what messages your body is attempting to convey to you.
That is not your fault! You were programmed this way, to keep yourself safe you maintained this programming. You don’t know any different until you learn that there is another way.
Perhaps your parents disciplined you if you didn’t do as you were told, or you expressed some individuality, or you were just being a kid! So you stopped! You stopped being a kid and grew up too fast, that is what trauma does to you. You stop being an individual and you morph yourself to suit others, because you were taught that it is better to be a people pleaser. You stop meeting your own needs and develop empathy because this keeps you safe, another trauma response. You no longer express your emotions, are you even sure what you feel? I know I wasn’t able to name my feelings until I started to connect with myself and I learnt that it was safe to express myself. Creativity helps you to express what you cannot say, but you probably stopped being creative. Why do you think that is? What emotions were you unable to express, why couldn’t you be an individual, a child who gets mad sometimes and plays and has fun? Where has your playful spirit gone?
The medicine is getting clear on who you are!
You can’t choose yourself and create boundaries if you aren’t aware of your values and goals. Who are you when you aren’t trying to be what you perceive others want you to be? What is your vision for your life? I am sure it isn’t being chronically sick or being depressed and anxious all the time. But you stored and repressed all of the trauma into your body. This is not what you are choosing consciously, but if you keep neglecting yourself, your subconscious and your body will show you that you have trauma to release and needs that aren’t being met. What are these needs? How can you meet your needs? Addressing that you have needs is the first step; make a list of them, keep adding to it every time you recognise a need that is not being met. How is your body and mind showing you that you aren’t meeting these needs?
The medicine is in choosing yourself!
This isn’t selfish and doesn’t make you a bad person. Choosing yourself allows you to build boundaries so your energy isn’t completely spent on others. You choose when and how you help others. You choose who you let in your life. You choose what you are going to do. If the people in your life leave because of your choices and boundaries, that is okay. They were used to you being a people pleaser and that suited them, but that doesn’t make them bad people. Sometimes we need to clear
out our inner circle because we no longer align with each other, just like giving your clothes to charity. This is growth because it allows other people in, people more in tune with the new you. People who will respect your boundaries and have boundaries of their own. No more energy vampires please!
The medicine isn’t the juice - or any other healing tool you choose.
The medicine is in the choosing because you are self aware.
The awareness that you need medicine and healing is still self awareness. Understand that symptoms of chronic dis-ease, in your body and mind, represent so much more. Your body and mind aren’t against you, they are helping you to become self aware, create self acceptance and love in your life. Stop perpetuating the cycle of neglect and abuse on yourself. I know that it is all you knew for so long, so let’s challenge these beliefs! Look in the mirror and see a friend looking back at you, what would you say to them, how would you tell them to act towards themselves? Being aware that you treat yourself differently from how you would want someone you love to treat themselves will open your eyes to the choices you have been making. Yes, there were reasons for these choices, and they didn’t feel like choices then, but they are your choices now. We have to take responsibility for our own healing, no matter how painful it is to acknowledge that we chose this life and we continue to do so, until we choose differently.
Choosing to understand yourself, express your emotions, accept yourself fully, figuring out what you want out of life, and then working towards living in alignment with all of that - THAT IS THE MEDICINE!
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